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Friday, November 25, 2016

go girl

I see you buzzing around. I see your mind racing even when your physical body may stop for a brief moment. I see you.

I want to hold your hands tightly, guide you to my bedroom, and I want us to sit down for a talk. It’s not about anything bad; you’re not in trouble. I want you to be inspired after we are finished today.

But, I also want you to rest. You being exhausted by the end of everyday, day after day does not serve anyone well. I know you’re doing your best. I know you’re giving it your all. I know you’re trying to live up to the potential people have always seen in you and talked about. I know you’re trying to make a difference to change the world and not waste any bit of your life.

I also understand that you doubt yourself every single day that you don't even know what you’re doing, or even if you’re devoting your time to the right cause. But, doing something has to be better than nothing. Right?

WRONG! That’s the biggest downfall you’re going to come across. Buzzing around in circles is not getting you anywhere closer to where you want to be… it’s just making you tired and eventually you’ll burn out. It’s okay to find joy in this very moment, rather than plan for the future.

I know you’re trying to do right by everyone else rather than doing what makes you happy. I know you’re trying to get it right, to live happily and wisely.

I just want you to know that you’re doing a great job and I am very proud of you. But please know this and always remember: you have so much time. Don’t believe the lies that you have to do it all, and do it all now. It’s nothing but utter bullsh*t that will fragment you, make you go insane, and burn yourself out.

I’d love to see you take a break every now and then. I’d love to see you slow down and relax. Just to catch your breath. Just long enough to clear your head. Self-care is a divine responsibility.

Eventually, I would love to see you live from a pattern of rest- no rushing, no working. Your life needs balance- swing into work, swing back into fun.

You’re going to do great things, darling. I just know it. Celebrate your accomplishments and victories. Take note of all the good. Learn from your mistakes and apply what you’ve learned to your life. Keep track of your progress, because you are making excellent progress! The world will keep spinning when you stop to take a breather, I promise!

Trust me, in the end everything will be okay and if it’s not okay, then obviously it’s not the end. Chin up or the crown slips.

I'm rooting for you with everything I got, always.

xx;

Your biggest fan


drei

I think about you constantly.

I wonder what life would be like if you were still here. I imagine all of the things you'd say. I imagine all of the different adventures we would have gone on.

I wonder who I would be if you were here. I wonder what we would all be like. I think about all of the different ways things would've turned out with you in our lives.

I miss you all the time. I miss you so much that my heart hurts. My heart literally clenches tightly when I think of you, as though it's trying to hold itself together while my thoughts try and tear it apart.

Time is supposed to heal all wounds but, it seems as though time just provided me with a band-aid that gets old and falls off more often than not.

I know you'd hate it, but I still cry for you. I still sit up at night and wish that you were here. I still talk to you and ask you for advice.

I can't help but want you here. Life has moved on but my heart and emotions haven't. I can't move on.

I have your picture everywhere. I think it's because I'm afraid that one day I'll forget your face.

God... I hope that never happens.

I don't remember your voice anymore. I remember things you said, but it's been so long that your voice has faded from memory.

I refuse to let you fade completely.

I won't do that to myself. You are the memory that I cling to when things get bad. You are the hope I hold onto when things get dark.

I need you, and your memory is all I have left. So, I'll keep it alive for you.

I will carry you in my heart wherever I go in life. I will petition God to have you as my guardian angel if that's what it takes to keep you with me.

I know that you are up there watching me. I know you look down and keep guard over me.

I can only hope that I'm making you proud. I can only hope that I'm what you imagined I'd be in life. I can only hope that you're smiling at me and not up there shaking your head.

I won't hope that you miss me as much as I miss you, because missing you is painful. Missing someone is too painful for Heaven to allow inside its gates. It's too painful for me to wish on anyone, especially you.

I love you.

And I miss you more than you'll ever realize.


new girl..

Dear New Girl,

Remember this…

He’s hot headed, impatient and will not back down when you fight
Love him for that because he trusts you completely

He’s a home body who loves watching movies
Make popcorn and cuddle with him on the couch

He’d rather starve all day rather than spend money on food
Don’t be offended, he’s saving his money so that you could go on dates over the weekend

He loves playing football and might be late sometimes
Let him follow his passion, encourage him and be his number 1 fan

He’s not much of a planner, that’s your job
Don’t stress him by asking where you both should eat if you won’t let him decide

When he cries in front of you, it means that he surrenders himself completely
Be there for him, hug him tight and listen

We had lots of adventures and a lot of it he will never forget
Don’t compare because having him is one great adventure

I will always be his first great love
Don’t worry because you’ll be his last

Our story ended while you’re starting to write yours
Don’t ever break his heart even if he broke mine

He deserves to be loved so don’t hold back.

By bii

ride or die

Your soul mate wifey really is your soul. She's your ride or die, main squeeze, wifey, baddest bitch you've ever met...and arguable more important that any man you will ever date.

Similar to a love connection, when you meet her you just know.

There's a lot of magic that happens when you find your soulmate wifey: when you do, your lows aren't really that low anymore because she's always there to lift you back up and remind you of how badass you really are:

There’s not even a need for a punchline anymore - you’re already laughing.
You’re each other’s therapists too many times to count...
But you also tell each other when you need to shut up: the need for that will never wane.

You let each other come back no matter how long you’ve strayed away; you always let each other do your own thing because you know that you’ll always come back to each other eventually. (Awwww.)
Through the good, the bad, and the ugly, somehow she just gets you.
You're the weirdest when you're together and make fun of each other like sisters. 
The first day you met, you felt like you had known each other mad long.

You still think she's the most beautiful girl in the world - even when she’s in her sweats with no make-up.
You bicker like an old married couple - but the fight just makes you closer. You’re probably too attached to each other to stay mad for too long, anyways.

When you need to borrow something, you give each other your favorite shit, not just the stuff you would never wear. That’s how you really separate a friend from a soulmate wifey. TRUTH!
You've also accepted the fact that when you do let them borrow something, you'll most likely never see it again.
You’re so in sync that when you go out you laugh at the same things around you without even saying a word.

You’re really comfortable in silence - quite possibly the most awesome intimate friendship thing, like, ever.
You both have the same list of “people I would like to punch in the face.”
She can distinguish if you’re in love, in lust, or just like someone before you even can.

You both have the same side eye.
No matter how long you lose touch for or haven’t seen each other, when you meet again it’s the same magical, and awesomely weird connection.

You’ve accepted the fact that no matter how much she hates her boyfriend or bitches about him, she’ll still take him back despite the many hours of godly advice you give her.
You'll still always be there for her when they break up again, without saying "I told you so."

Because you know she’s never judged you for anything.
No matter how much of a cuntress you can be, you'll always forgive each other.
Boundaries have completely disappeared; personal space has no meaning for you.

3 am, 4 am 5 am - no time is off limits to call when you’re in need.
When shit gets real, you know she’s got your back.
You always tell each other how it is.

You’ll let each other cry and wallow and vent as much as you need, but when it’s time to get back up and fight, you’ll use some tough love to make sure she’ll never stay in a slump for long.
When she’s sad, you’re sad. When she’s happy, you’re happy. It’s just that Siamese connection.
She's your ride or die bitch for life.

By Anna Bashedly

Alone

Alone.

When was the last time you were alone? With nothing but the distinct thumping of your heart, the ragged sound of your own breaths? When was the last time you realised even silence has a sound? 

Society has romanticised the concept of being with someone to a stifling degree. It’s always made to be shown like you constantly need someone with you. Be it a lover, a friend, a parent, a sibling, an acquaintance - but you just have to have someone with you constantly. Why? Society forgets, that being alone isn’t the same thing as being lonely.

And it doesn’t stop there. You need to be able to hold a conversation well. You need to be abreast with current issues to sound intellectual. General knowledge ceases to be a thing of curiosity or keenness to learn; it becomes a standard for judging someone’s IQ. You need to be fun, interesting, goofy, witty, sarcastic, humorous; when did human interaction cease being natural and start resembling a job profile? Why do you have to know every current pop culture reference to “fit” into a place? Why do you have to always have a topic in mind to be with someone?

When did benefits of human interaction turn into criteria for choosing humans for interaction?

Stop. 

Stop trying to fit in. Stop trying to chip off the edge in you to conform to the old that society gives you. Stop letting the weights that life throws your way succeed in weighing you down, leaving you gasping and spluttering in the water, desperately trying to catch a gulp of air and getting a mouthful of salty water instead. Stop yourself from having to sigh as you type “yes” to a group outing while you’d really like to just stay in your pyjamas with a bag of greasy, salty chips and tie your hair up in a messy bun, the entire evening spent burrowed cozily in your blanket with some movie.

Be. 

Be alone. Be with your own thoughts - an entire swirling galaxy of numbing thoughts and ideas just waiting to be heard by you. Be with the quiet of your soul and the raging inferno of your spirit - feel the pull between the two as the stretch makes you feel alive. 

Look.

Look at the momentous times you’ve had - the time when you were with your friends and all of you were almost broke but chose to go for that movie anyway, because it would be the last day of college together, before you saw each other after a period of over three months. The time you couldn’t sleep at night because you were that moved after having watched Dead Poets’ Society, a lump in your throat as you tried not to cry after the film ended. The time you stayed up all night writing something because the bug in your head was too insistent to get rid of, your body humming with a tired ache, but your mind active like never before, the words rushing over each other to get penned down as soon as they could. The time you got a grade worse than anyone you knew, a sinking feeling of guilt settling in your conscience even as you couldn’t help but resent the happy faces around you, realising that they didn’t know what they had. The time you felt so isolated and excluded from everyone around that you didn’t mind stomping on your self-respect and ego repeatedly and appear chirpy and curious about their activities, the broad grin on your face just a cover for the actual hurt you felt. The time you pretended like you didn’t hear them make plans without you, despite you being a mere couple of steps away from them as you pretended to be busy on your phone just to avoid an awkward situation with them. 

Realise.

Realise what an insignificant speck of dirt you truly are in comparison to the vastness of the universe, nothing more than a wing of a mosquito compared to the gargantuan size of the universe. Realise how privileged you are to be able to have a roof over your head, a meal thrice a day, water that you can drink without the fear of falling sick, the assurance of proper medical treatment even if you do fall sick. 

Realise what powers lie within you - be it the ability to dip a brush in some colours and bring a blank white canvas to life with myriad shades and hues being created by your hands. The ability to recognise the beats of a song and with some dips and turns of your hands or feet or hips, break into a scintillating dance sequence. The ability to reach octaves higher than most can, drop to a pitch lower than possible, to develop a falsetto almost as strong as someone’s real voice. The ability to put the thoughts in your mind to coherent words and pour them all out, a gushing waterfall of emotions each time. The ability to perceive the truth in someone’s eyes even if their actions speak otherwise, to be able to just sit in silence with someone and let them talk, be the support for their shuddering outburst of truth. The ability to be able to dispel any discomfort with some humour, to feel blessed to be the cause for someone’s laughter, someone’s joy. 

The ability to be you. A privilege, an honour to have. One reserved particularly for you.

Seize that opportunity and live up to it. Don’t lose sight of the person your younger self would’ve been proud to emulate. Chase every goal you set for yourself. Stumble, fall, trip as you fail to do so. Dust yourself. Get up and run at it again.

Live.

Submitted by Ananya Bhardwaj
 

For my girlfriend (remember this when life hits you hard)

You mean the world to me. And I'm not trying to be cheesy or just saying this because I can. I'm saying it because I mean it.

You make every day so much brighter and I seriously have no idea how I dealt with life before you.

You have been in my life now for years and I couldn't thank you enough for loving me for who I am and always being here for me.

But I also want you to know I am always here for you.

I want you to know that things will get hard in life and at times you will feel alone.

You will want to give up and quit because things are just so overwhelming but please don't.

Things will be okay, and I will always be here for you when things get hard.

But I just want you to know you are an amazing woman and I never want you to lose faith in yourself when things get hard.

Because you have such an amazing life ahead of you. You have so much to accomplish and you can't do those things if you give up.

Your future is going to be so bright if you always remember what you can and will overcome any hardship that may get in your way.

It may be tough right now, but it will get better and you will understand eventually why everything has happened and how it has made your life better.

Life is a rollercoaster ride and I understand that you may be worried to talk to me about whats going on...

But I am here to help, that's why we are best friends! I never want you to feel alone or lose faith in the journey you are going on.

So I hope you know, that no matter what happens you can always confide in me.

By Nicole Clements - Writers Page

Are you feeling stressed?

It's been a long time since I haven't posted anything in a while as I have been busy with work and stuff (or just plain lazy). Anyway, here are some tips that I stumbled upon while browsing Facebook which I think will help those who stumble upon this blog on managing stress. Especially in this fast-paced in generation where everything seems automatic and everything seems to be in our reach (thanks to technology), this is quite helpful. So here it is:

Always take time for yourself. At least 30 minutes per day.
Be aware of your own stress meter. Know when to step back and cool down.
Concentrate on controlling your own situation, without controlling everybody else.
Daily exercise will burn off the stress chemicals.
Eat lots of fresh fruit, veggies, bread and water. Give your body the best for it to perform at its best.
Forgive others, don't hold grudges and be tolerant -- not everyone is as capable as you.
Gain perspective on things. How important is the issue?
Hugs, kisses and laughter. Have fun and don't be afraid to share your feelings with others.
Identify stressors and plan to deal with them better next time.
Judge your own performance realistically. Don't set goals out of your own reach.
Keep a positive attitude. Your outlook will influence outcomes and the way others treat you.
Limit alcohol, drugs and other stimulants. They affect your perception and behaviour.
Manage money well, seek advice and save at least 10 per cent of what you earn.
No is a word you need to learn to use without feeling guilty.
Outdoor activities by yourself, with friends or family can be a great way to relax.
Play your favorite music rather than watching television.
Quit smoking. It is stressing your body daily not to mention killing you too.
Relationships. Nurture and enjoy them, learn to listen more and talk less.
Sleep well with a firm mattress and a supportive pillow. Don't overheat yourself and allow plenty of ventilation.
Treat yourself once a week with a massage, dinner out or the movies. Moderation is the key.
Understand things from the other person's point of view.
Verify information from the source before exploding.
Worry less. It really does not get things completed better or quicker.
Make a regular retreat to your favorite space. Make holidays a part of your yearly plan and budget.
Yearly goal setting. Plan what you want to achieve based on your priorities in your career, relationships, etc.
Zest for life. Each day is a gift. Smile and be thankful that you are a part of the bigger picture.